The many problems with forgiveness.
Read more{#TellYourTrauma submission} "I was a gymnast for ten years"
“I quit gymnastics on Thursday, August 30, 2012. From that day forward I repressed every thought and memory I had of my time in the gym.”
Read moreWhy You Should Ditch The People Who Say "get over it"
Abuse isn't something to "get over".
You were hurt. It was painful and horrible, not fair. You didn't deserve it. It wasn't your fault. You have the right to be angry, mournful, actively sad or any emotion at all about what happened.
Don't let anyone try to rob you of your feelings about the abuse. People who say "get over it" or ask when you will be over it, are attempting to control you to make themselves more comfortable. They have no right to do that.
Don't let them control you.
You are fine, just as you are. And if you are not fine, you should consider getting making changes so you aren't feel healthier. You deserve that. People people minimizing your experiences or your feelings are not worthy of you.
Remember The First Best Thing and go from there when you're building (or dismantling) relationships.
Love Is The Answer = Myth, Peril and Prison
But love is never The Answer, especially when things aren't good or are downright bad. The issue of love must be factored out of the hard questions you ask yourself. Questions like:
"Should I stay?"
"Why don't they ever______?"
"When will they stop thinking only of themselves?"
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